Anger is one of the opposites of happiness. I think it is important for us to begin to try to understand why we get angry and why it is important to learn to get over our anger quickly and healthily to work towards more happiness.
I sometimes find myself getting angry over the tiniest thing: the lady who cut me off on the highway, the long line at the store, my spouse (enough said!), co-workers…etc, etc, etc! Why do I allow myself to get so angry? It really only hurts ME when I get angry and stay fuming over it all day.
Take, for example, my work. As you may know, I work in fine dining as a waitress. Although I am FABULOUS, I get the occaisional horrible, measly, too small 10% tip. “10%!!!!”, I think (yell) to myself, “Do these people think I work for fun? Did I only bring you 19 Dr. Peppers when you wanted 20? What is the deal!!????” This little inside rant can go on and on if I allow it to. However, this only raises my blood pressure and makes me look angry. If I look angry, I may get more poor tips from my other tables as well. This will create a cycle of anger that only hurts me.
Let’s take another example. Have you ever liked a lady one-on-one, but get her around a group and WHOA…irritation central? Perhaps she becomes a little louder, or leaves you out of the conversation altogether. Does she ignore you when you are in a group of other ladies when she usually is friendly? This happened to me several times in MK settings, and sometimes happens with co-workers. Most of the people that do this “personality switcharoo” in a group simple have trouble dealing with groups. If their personality is changing, they may be trying to impress someone in the group, avoiding someone in the group, avoiding someone to impress another, the possibilities are endless! Now, would I approach the person and ask them what’s up with that? That all depends. If I know the person well, I probably would. If not, I’d usually fume internally and disect their every word as if it was directed at me. Self-centered much? I have come to believe that thinking everything is directed at me or has to do with me is self-centered and not true. I may not like the way certain people behave in groups, but the reason behind that is not me. See how when you put in it perspective your anger fades and sympathy begins? It must be hard to feel like you have to change who you are depending uppn who is around at the time! I try to be “real” as much as humanly possible, but I’m also just plain too lazy to keep up with it all! LOL!
So dub me “Mad No More”! I am done wasting my day being angry. This brings me to another goal. I would like to memorize one scripture a week so when I do begin to feel angry, I can repeat that to myself instead of thinking about how mad I am. Praying something like, “Dear Lord, Please help Jane stop being so irritating” does not count, ladies! Hee hee hee. I will be changing the heading up top from “Favorite Scriptures” to “Scripture of the Week”. This week’s scripture will be what the bible has to say about anger. I noticed when looking up some scriptures that a lot of them have to do with God’s Righteous anger…anger at sin. Sometimes we should be angry, like when someone is murdered or sexually assaulted. However, the anger I speak of here is pety, silly, and immature anger. This is what I seek to personally rid my life of.
Here are some more links on how anger can affect your happiness and physical health:
Controlling Anger Before It Controls You