“Where have all of the ladies gone? I’m not saying we can’t play games and have fun, but can’t we do it with actions that don’t make a man want to treat us like one of the guys? We have to act like a lady and act respectful to reap the benefits of being treated like a lady with respect – right? I really believe that women can vote, play games, and get paid a fair wage – and still act and get treated like a lady.
Want some symbolism? I’m about ready to throw out my slacks – instead of burning my bra! Be a lady, and be proud of it! (Then, maybe the men will wake up too.)” -by Starr Bragg
To me, a lady is someone who is strong in mind and character, but usually is very selfless. When I think of a lady, I think of someone who rarely (if ever) curses and also someone of a gentle nature. So should we behave like ladies? Can we be honest, women of 2008 AND be considered a lady? I think we can or at least should strive to. Being a lady, in my opinion, is more than appearing to be a lady-like person. To me, it is about being giving and putting others before ones self. For instance, in a group of women deciding where to eat lunch, the ladies in the group will be saying, “Where would you prefer to eat?”. The non-ladies (hmmm, what should we call them?) may be more forceful in attempting to get their way. It is one thing to give your opinion, but quite another to think that your opinion is best for a group.
I think I should attempt to be more of a lady. I think it can help in home life as well (as the above article mentions briefly). If I act as if I do not need my husband’s help or advice, why would he continue to offer it? If we were to make it more clear that we cannot always bear all the stress (in a loving way), it would help tremendously. I also truly believe that a man will feel better about himself if he is contributing more as well and have more self-esteem and happiness.
So what do you think? Is it worth the effort to change to become a more lady-like person?
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